I’m against polygamy, threesomes, cheating, and swinging. I feel like this is an unpopular opinion because no one takes the vows of marriage seriously. (this isn’t at all a post against gay marriage!) I mean to say that basically, marriage should ONLY be between two people (be it man/woman, man/man, woman/woman) and I feel like anyone who tries to include someone else in their marriage, even if it’s consensual, doesn’t take marriage seriously. If you aren’t prepared to be monogamous for life, then don’t get married. I’m not at all a religious person, but my views on marriage closely follow religion’s view. Marriage isn’t just a piece of paper or an expensive ring. It’s giving yourself, all of yourself, to another person. If you aren’t prepared for that, then don’t get married.
"But my marriage doesn’t affect yours!" I disagree. One of these days, probably in my lifetime, we’ll focus less on gay marriage (because face it, it’ll be legal soon) and more on legalizing polygamist marriage. I feel like a polygamist or open marriage completely bastardizes the definition of marriage and weakens what marriage is supposed to be. Marriage is there to tie yourself for life (with obvious exceptions like abuse, cheating, etc) to ONE person. I already hear a lot of people claiming that "marriage is just a piece of paper" and I feel like we need to go back to what marriage SHOULD be: confession your love to ONE person, tying yourself to them, saying "I love this person eternally, I want to spend my entire life with them, I want to (possible) raise a family with them, this is my life now."
I wish marriage was taken more seriously, I guess. Maybe this makes me a horrible person, I don’t know. I just wish people would stop thinking that my marriage is just a government contract, because it isn’t, and I feel like open marriages/swinging/etc makes people think that marriage isn’t a serious commitment.
This is why I want to be married in a church despite not being religious, I want it to be a spiritual commitment and not just something that gives some legal advantages.